Today, I want to share from my notes from yesterday’s sermon about Troubled Friendships. I know that Dr. Stanley is all about sharing the gospel so I will give a portion of my “takeaways” from yesterday. His message was personally very timely, because this year, my birthday “wish” is that I gain more “godly” friendships.
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.__ Proverbs 18:24 KJV
I don’t mean to be negative but in a culture that values of quantity over quality we usually need to wade through a field to find the treasure. So from yesterday’s message I will share a quote that comforted me greatly and a list of ten ways to destroy a friendship :
- Manipulation-trying to get others to do what you want them to do
- Possessiveness – requiring others to “report” or check in with you daily, restricting others from having other friends, etc
- Jealously- not being able to rejoice in the blessings of others
- Criticism- always pointing out the negative aspect of a situation
- Explosive personality-not managing our emotions
- Covetousness-wanting what others have
- Disloyalty-betraying confidences
- Busyness-not making time for others
“If something is not right [in a friendship] and I am not willing to correct it, I am going to lose that friend.” __ Dr. Charles Stanley
Sometimes others try burdened us to prove our “Christianity” by carrying dying relationships. Friendship requires pliability– a willingness to change — on the parts of both parties for survival.
By examining our selves for these behaviors and enlisting the help of the Holy Spirit to overcome them, we are sure to attract the kind of people we are joyously grateful to call “friend.”